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Does Time Really Heal All Wounds?


Does Time Really Heal All Wounds? I wish I could give a definitive answer. Truth is, I personally do not believe that it does. I personally believe that as time passes we learn more ways to cope with past pains day-to-day. The flashbacks become less, and when they do come we have learned how to deal with them. We have learned how to deal with the triggers. We know what things can trigger us, and we know how to deal with them. We cannot avoid things that trigger us all the time. It is not healthy, and doing so can have a huge negative impact on us. (P.T.S.D. and It’s Triggers).

Time is a notion we use to measure seconds, minutes, hours, days, months and years. Time in itself is not a healer. The passing of time can take the edge off a little bit for short-term pain, but it doesn’t actually heal the pain. When someone says “it takes time to heal”, time is not referred to as the healing source. It takes time along with another source such as therapy. “It takes time” is said because a person must understand that healing does not happen overnight. There are steps that need to be taken and there may even be some trials and errors. Each person individually deals with hurt, loss, and pain differently. What may work for one individual may not work for the next and vice versa.

When talking about pain, I am not necessarily talking about physical pain, but more so, emotional pain. The invisible wounds. The invisible scars that no one can see but you or anyone that you may have entrusted to talk to.

I have dealt with many situations in my life where someone has said “In due time” or “Time heals all wounds.” A question that many people ask is: “How long? A month? Two months? Six months? A year? Five Years?”.. Truth is, time has no restrictions. We are the ones  who put  the restrictions on time. What we need to remember is that we have to stop worrying about the time. It is not about time, it is about what we do within the time. It is about the steps that we are taking and how we are using time.

So, no time doesn’t necessarily heal all wounds.

What helps you to cope?

What things do you do now or have done in the past that worked for you?

What advice could you give someone who is having trouble coping today?

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