When your biological father doesn’t love you, it cuts you deep. It leaves you vulnerable and weak. Leaving you open to predators Who seek to do nothing but devour you. When your father doesn’t love you It leaves you searching for it in the wrong places. It leaves you craving it. No matter how it is that you taste it. Love is all that you want. Love is all that you long for. To be loved. It is all you dream about. You fall for all the lies. No matter how big or small. You will

Have you ever wondered why? Why he or she covers up the lies? Why he or she doesn’t just leave? Why he or she cannot see what you see? Have you ever tried to understand? Walk in his or her shoes if you can? Ever think of the dangers that are at hand? Do you realize the mental control that is in place? Do you know the things that he or she must face? Do you know what is possibly at stake? How much careful planning it all takes? Before judging and assuming, before victim bashin

I was looking for a video to post while I finish writing a blog I am working on and came upon these videos. The domestic Violence Summit 2014 hosted on the Dr. Phil Show. It is a seven-part series and I just had to share them with you. Let’s raise awareness. Let’s connect. Let’s Inspire and Let’s Come Together! #domesticviolenceawareness #abuse #Teens #knowledgeispower #inspire #Informative #strength #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #encourage #awareness #Discussion #TeenDatin

As you all know from my previous blog, I have started writing my book. It’s really hard, remembering details from my childhood as well as details from my relationship. I must admit I’ve already shed some tears and this is just the beginning of the book. Remembering things I worked so hard to erase or cover up. To bring them back to the forefront has been difficult at times. Some things I actually did completely block out of my mind and couldn’t really write in complete detail

Hey everyone, first let me just apologize for being absent as far as blogging, I know I have some very supportive readers and followers who look forward to my blogs. After reading this particular post I believe it is safe to say that you will all understand why I have been absent. It was difficult for me to start writing this, and took me a couple weeks to even begin writing gain. Triggers and flashbacks. I hate them. I mean i really HATE them!I had a trigger on Sunday June 2

Hey all, so I am in the works of creating a newsletter.  I am planning on starting it in September, I thought that would be a great time since it is the 1 year anniversary of my blog page. On my page I have the subscription sign-up on there, I want to focus on gaining subscribers now while I work on newsletters and continue educating myself with creating them, I have a couple in the works already. This newsletter is a monthly newsletter focusing on encouraging, inspiring, and

Happy Mother’s Day to this beautiful woman my Momma, my super-woman, my Queen!! Without her, I don’t even know where I would be! Thank you for your love, your support, your strength. Thank you for your encouraging words and kicks to my behind when needed. Thank you for always being supportive of all my decisions no matter how hard it may have been for you. Because of you I am the woman I am today, and because of you, I know I will become that much better. There will never be

Love, a word that I always say is an action word. Not just a word that is said, but a word that is shown, love is something that you do. By definition, love is an intense feeling of affection. I often find other survivors asking “How will I ever love again?” To be honest, you will never be able to truly love another person until you first love yourself. When you were in an abusive relationship you were not loved or cared for properly which may have led to you feeling like you

Spread your wings. Sail along the gentle breeze. Gaze upon the horizon, Look down upon the trees. Take in the beauty Of a new beginning. Spread your wings. Fly to newer heights. Escape to a better place. Feel the wind beneath your wings. Breathe in the fresh air of freedom. Spread your wings. Soar like an eagle. Take on a new journey. Gracefully floating, To your new destination. Spread your wings. Glide into paradise. For now, it is time to fly. Fly to your safe place. Sprea

Thank you joicelizsabeth (my soul-sister); for nominating me for the Sisterhood of the World blogger award. To say I am honored is an understatement! I thank you so much, and truly appreciate you J! It looks like all I have to do is answer 10 questions, and nominate other women who are more than worthy of a nomination.  So here are the questions posed to me. Why do you blog? – At first, I wrote a blog to share my experience of domestic violence. In all honesty, I thought that

Follow my blog with Bloglovin There is a moment that comes for a victim when they just know. They know that it is now or never. They know that this is more than likely the only opportunity they may ever have to escape. There is no time limit. The number of years it took for the victim to leave does not compare to the fact that he or she survived! Because, as a survivor I can tell you, all you want is for the person you originally met to return. You didn’t fall in love with th

Follow my blog with Bloglovin It is hard not to wonder what the “new life” will look like when facing the decision to leave or stay. To some, it may seem crazy about there even being a decision in such matter, but the thing is that the abuser actually has THAT MUCH control and has instilled THAT MUCH fear into the victim, that yes; now there is a decision to be made and it can actually be a life or death decision. One must remember, that the victim has been isolated from fami

Follow my blog with Bloglovin Why I write.. For as long as I can remember, writing was my way of healing. What I wasn’t comfortable expressing openly, I expressed with a pen to paper. The things I knew I had to let out but wasn’t ready to share with others, are written all over notebooks, typed on computers, written as notes on a cellphone or tablet. It was the summer of 2015, I had completely opened up about my experience with domestic violence to one of my amazing friends.

Follow my blog with Bloglovin “Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.” I encourage those who have a voice to use it. I encourage you to use it for those who no longer have one, and for those still searching for theirs. I encourage you to no longer be ashamed of what you have been through; but be proud that you survived! Be proud that the thing(s) that tried to kill you made you stronger! Hold your head up high and smile! Stand tall and raise your voice. There

Follow my blog with Bloglovin First I just wanted to thank those who have read my blog; thank you for your likes, comments and follows, they have all truly encouraged me more than words could ever possibly describe! As some of you know sometimes it can be hard and emotionally draining to share in detail what we have experienced; since basically we are sharing it with the world once we post it on the internet. I hope my future blogs continue to touch, encourage, empower, and i

Follow my blog with Bloglovin You are not your past! You are not all those horrible things that you were once called to belittle you and make you feel powerless. At some point you said “Enough is enough!” You dug and dug deep to muster up whatever ounce of strength you had and you got up and left. No matter how long it may have taken you to get there, the point is that you got there! You walked out and never turned back, or maybe you did. Maybe you looked back for a split sec

Follow my blog with Bloglovin “When life gives you lemons, you don’t make lemonade. You use the seeds to plant a whole orchard – an entire franchise! Or you could just stay on the Destiny Bus and drink lemonade someone else has made, from a can.” – Anthon St. Maarten We have all heard the expression: “when life gives you lemons make lemonade.” But too me, just making lemonade doesn’t seem enough, it’s only temporarily satisfying. So I had to google to see if I could find a si